My legally married wife fell pregnant by my ex-workmate. How do we deal with that Aunty? I want a divorce. – Anonymous
Dear Anonymous
It’s a sad situation of infidelity and once your trust in her is broken like this it is difficult to mend it. But nothing is impossible. How she got pregnant maybe something to consider in case she deserves forgiveness and a second chance. If it was a case of rape it is obviously something she didn’t choose and never wanted and she will be looking forward to having your support. The issue becomes totally different though if she had an affair with this ex-workmate.
There are lots of things to consider – for example do you have other children together? How will they be affected? Divorce is a messy business and always causes emotional, psychological and spiritual damage – so it should be avoided if ever possible. It all depends how much you love her and how much you are willing to accept the situation and move on. If she still loves you and wants to continue being your wife you can forgive her and agree to start over. But she will need to work hard to regain your trust and prove herself worthy of your love.
You can ask for different people’s advice but you need to listen to what your heart is telling you. You do not want to blame anyone for any decision you will make. – Aunty Lisa
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