I am a 23-year-old woman. I recently had a fight with my mother. On New Year’s Eve I went out with my girlfriends and spent the night drinking alcohol and partying. It was my first time ever going out and coming late and even drinking alcohol. My mum got angry with me when l came back and told me to go back where l was. I felt she had the impression that I was with boys and sleeping around since I was a bit high. I tried to explain it to her that we were just partying with friends. It was one night everyone goes crazy for crying out loud, how can she not understand? I am currently at my cousin’s place. How can I regain my mum’s trust? – Felly
Dear Felly
“It was one night everyone goes crazy” but your mother knew you to be different. This was your first time to go crazy and naturally your mother was shocked -especially if you didn’t tell her that you would be back late. She has every reason to be worried because she loves you. Any mother in that situation is bound to suspect the horrors of her “baby girl” drinking alcohol and sleeping around with boys. She sent you away because she really didn’t know else to do. But if you give up on her she will be convinced that she is right. You need to go back and try to talk to her again. Apologise for worrying her and going out without her permission or at least her knowledge.
Ask your cousin help you talk to your mother if she is someone she respects. Believe me your mother loves you and this is the time for you to tell her that what she is imagining never happened. You may also need to promise her that you will not do anything that will worry her again and keep to that promise. Let 2013 be a year to make your mother proud. – Aunty Lisa
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