My New Year’s resolution is to have our second child. The problem is my husband does not want to have any more kids. Our firstborn is five years now. I am thinking of just having the baby, I am planning to fall pregnant without his approval. Will he eventually accept it? – Mrs Pee
Dear Mrs Pee
I think your husband would be likely to accept the baby eventually because I am sure he is smart enough not to force you to have an adoption. But family planning is something both parties need to agree on. This will not only be your child. As much as he insists that he does not want a second child it does not mean when he is there he will neglect him/her. He will play his fatherly role, but the man must have his reasons for speaking against having another one. You need to talk to each other and agree on your family planning. There may be friction between the two of you if you do things your way without talking to him – and it could also cause terrible emotional harm to the child, because children can sense when they are not loved. Make 2013 about convincing your husband the beauty of having another kid and pray that God continue to bless your marriage in so many ways. – Aunty Lisa