Dear Aunty Lisa
I disrespected my teacher at school and I have been sent to bring my parents. I don’t know what to tell them, please help me I am stuck. – Confused
Dear Confused
What you could have done was to apologise to the teacher for your behaviour, and promise him or her that it won’t happen again – and make sure it doesn’t. You can still try and talk to the teacher and ask that she/he solve the issue without involving your parents. She can punish you instead and you promise her to change.
If you are already at home to face your parents you will need to tell them the truth of what happened. Apologise to them for misbehaving at school and promise them that it will not happen again. Explain to them that they will need to meet the school authorities and apologise on your behalf. It will be tough but you need to go through it – learn the lesson and move on stronger, AND make sure that you won’t have them called in again for anything bad. – Aunty Lisa
Jealous of a car!
Dear Aunty Lisa
My husband is crazy about his car. I find it weird sometimes that l get jealous of something that does not breathe – but that’s how bad his obsession of the car is getting. He never makes time for us, it’s either he is washing his car or driving to town to get it pumped. When he is washing it, he takes ages as if it’s the only thing there is to life. I don’t know how I can make him stop. Please help? – Sally
Dear Sally
What you really want is your husband’s attention and him spending time with you. First of all, your man needs to realize how he is making you feel by not making time for you. The only way he can know is if you tell him – calmly and clearly, not when you are angry or upset. Communication is very important. He probably does not realize he is spending too much time on his car. It probably seems normal to him. Talk to him, tell him how you feel and how you wish to spend more time with him. When you do, try not to blame him for his behaviour. The idea is to make him see how he has not been paying much attention to you. Do not talk much about him spending too much time with his car but more on how much you are missing spending time with him. Make him see how important it is to you. It may seem like you are fussing for nothing – but if it is important to you I am sure he will compromise. – Aunty Lisa
Serious nappy rash
Dear Aunty Lisa
My daughter is 12months old and she has developed a serious nappy rash. She cries a lot and sometimes she does not want to move her legs as if in pain. It brings tears in my eyes and I can’t afford diapers to keep her dry. What can I do? – Kelly’s mum
Dear Kelly’s mum
Cloth diapers are actually recommended, so do not feel bad about using them on your daughter. The main thing is to change them more frequently. Don’t let your daughter stay wet for too long. That is what causes nappy rash and makes it worse.
I think the reason why your daughter does not want to move her legs is that she will be wet and her rash will be itchy. So, yes she will be in pain. You need to take special care of her during this time. Once a nappy is wet quickly change it, even if it means changing her every hour. Please use baby powder on her during each nappy change. You can also use zinc oxide which is good for curing the rash or simply put a lot of Vaseline.
It will not help your child if you cry with her when she is in pain – you need to be strong for her. If the rash persists for more than a few days, make sure to have her checked by a doctor. – Aunty Lisa
Free to discuss
Dear Aunty Lisa
My ex-boyfriend is getting in touch with me a lot these days even though he knows I am married. He never says anything about getting back together but he talks to me as a friend and sometimes he even tells me about his girlfriends. Do you think this will be a problem with my husband if he finds out? – S.C
Dear S.C
Every man is different. Your husband may not worry about it but it may be a big deal with other men in their marriages. You know your husband better. But I think the fact that you seem not comfortable with him finding out that you communicate a lot with your ex tells me that it is a big deal to him. So, why do something that puts your marriage in jeopardy?
You may not be the one calling him but the fact that you are entertaining him will make you just as “guilty.” But the most important thing is to know how your partner feels about it. I believe people should be free to discuss anything in marriage. You can simply tell him that your ex communicates with you as a friend and ask if that is okay with him. Keeping it a secret and worrying what will happen if he finds out only raises unnecessary suspicions of infidelity. Remember to respect how your husband feels about it. If he thinks you should cut the communication then you need to honour that for the sake of protecting your love. – Aunty Lisa
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