Dear Aunty Lisa
I have a migraine problem and it persists for a long time that I can’t even do anything when I am in pain. I have tried drinking a lot of water like others say, but it does not stop. Please help me with any ideas that can help. Thanks. – Sandy
Dear Sandy
There are a number of things that may cause or worsen a migraine. Do not overwork yourself especially when you use a computer. You need to learn from what you do or what you eat every day if there is anything that causes it. Keep a track of what you eat as some foods can affect some people with migraines. Chocolate and coffee are two common substances that do this.
Drinking a lot of water is good as a general rule and may help prevent your problem but will not necessarily cure it. You should not wait for a migraine before drinking water. You need to drink at least two litres of water a day, every day.
Changing sleep patterns, being jetlagged or being extremely tired can prompt migraines. Try to get a good night’s rest with lights off and try to put an ice pack or cold compress on your head. You should seek medical advice if possible. – Aunty Lisa
He never calls
Dear Aunty Lisa
My boyfriend hardly calls me and I am the one who always call him. He says he is not comfortable with visiting me at my parents’ place and I am the one who always visits him. On Valentine’s Day I was the one who bought him a present and I got nothing from him. I recently got very sick with a cold that I am still down with and he has not called me to check on me even when I had told him I was not feeling well the last time I phoned him. He always tells me that he loves me when we talk and I feel the same way for him. What can I do to make him care about me? – Lilly
Dear Lilly
I am sorry about your boyfriend’s behaviour Lilly but I don’t think he loves you like he claims. Love takes a lot more than just words! You cannot make someone care. If he doesn’t care – he simply doesn’t love you. If you need my advice, leave this man and move on! You deserve better. – Aunty Lisa
No time for kids
Dear Aunty Lisa
I am a single mother to two beautiful daughters, aged two and five, and I love them so much. I work hard to earn a living for them but because of my demanding job I don’t have a social life and I am finding no time for my kids. I am deeply hurt when they show no interest in me – but seem to prefer the maid. I am their biological mother and I want them to grow up knowing that. They are too young to explain how important it is for me to work. What can I do to restore the bond? – Mai Junior
Dear Mai Junior
I am sorry about ‘losing’ that special bond with your kids due to your demanding job. But I believe you have not lost it, you just need to make time for them and you will see that deep down in their small lovely hearts they know you are their mother. As much as you need to work for your children, you also need to realize that they are more important than your job. You need to put your family first and make sure you spend some quality time with your girls.
If you get home when they have gone to bed and leave for work while they are still sleeping it is not good – and not surprising that they have such strong feelings for the maid. Love is not about what you buy them. For children, love is spelled T-I-M-E. You will need somehow to juggle your schedule so that you can be there for them.
Take some time away from your busy schedule; give your maid a day off to give you some privacy with your kids. Every week, try to spend some quality time with them; get to know them and open your heart to them. Do all the funny and crazy stuff with them. Learn to be their mother and their best friend and you will never go wrong. – Aunty Lisa
Stealing daughter
Dear Aunty Lisa
My 16-year-old daughter has a bad habit of stealing. She takes anything she likes and takes money from relatives without their knowledge each time she visits. They now know her for this – so it is embarrassing when l let her sleepover at my relatives’ places and they miss some things. I tend to cover up for her when they ask about their missing things. I am too embarrassed to tell them I saw her with it. What can I do to make her stop? – Worried Mum
Dear Worried Mum
You need to help her understand that what she is doing is wrong. And helping her understand does not only mean talking to her. By covering up for her you are actually telling her that it is okay to steal. You are showing her that she can do anything and you will support her all the way.
You have to put your own embarrassment aside for the sake of training your daughter before this goes any further. It could end her in prison one day. Soit is important to let her know that stealing is bad. Ask her how she would feel if someone took something belonging to her. Get her to return the stuff – it is important for her to experience the humiliation of that.
She is too old for you to use spanking as a form of disciplining her. You could consider withholding her privileges. She needs to know what stealing means in terms of punishment and you need to pick on something she loves dearly. – Aunty Lisa
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