I am a 30-year-old woman and the only man who has ever been serious with me to talk of marriage is a man I thought to be a time-pusher. I was never serious with him. He is not presentable to say the least. I can’t even imagine him as the father of my children. He does not have a stable job though he is very educated. I am now confused whether I need to consider marrying him. Do you think he will be good enough for me? – Chichi
Dear Chichi
What matters most in marriage is love and trust. Yes his ability to take care of the family matters and that may as well apply to you. There is nothing wrong with you being the breadwinner and provider of the family if things are not stable with him financially. We don’t get into a relationship for financial reasons.
It is time you look beyond what you see with the naked eye regarding that man. You need to look at his heart and ask yourself if he is the kind of man who would stand by your side till death do you part. Having someone who understands you and support your in whatever you do is all you need. He may not be financially stable but things do change and since he is educated like you say, he will be fine.
He will really need to see that you are committed, and that you love and respect him. You need to be stepping into this relationship knowing that you are ready to love and to be loved. You will not be doing him a favour as if he was never going to be loved by anyone else. But you need to respect him and his confidence will start to build up and he will rise to his potential. Listen to your heart and know that what you see in him is smaller than what is in him. – Aunty Lisa
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