Children are a gift from God. They are a blessing to the couple and a great source of joy, sometimes. But some couples fail to have children, and they might find out that they cannot have children only after getting married. In the African context, this can be devastating to their marriage.
Indeed, in some cases it may result in the break-up of the union. It can also be a cause for social strife within the extended family as relatives begin to ask awkward questions and naughty suggestions. Christian couples are not necessarily spared the pain and suffering that usually accompanies childlessness. In fact, they may have to endure even more ridicule from fellow Christians who may regard the childless couple as faithless or weak in prayer. In this contribution we wish to make just a few suggestions on how a childless couple can cope with this rather unfortunate situation. We must admit that we have no experience in this matter since we have three biological children.
Support
Perhaps the first coping mechanism must be to affirm your love one to another in the marriage. Accept the fact that the contract is between the two of you and it has to be observed. The condition of childlessness should not result in the devaluation of the union between the two of you in any manner whatsoever. Indeed, you will need to support each other even more strenuously when you find out that you cannot have children. The next thing to do is to approach medical experts for examination and treatment, where possible. Medical experts will usually conduct a number of tests in order to establish the specific cause of barrenness. It is rare that both the man and the woman should be found to be the cause of childlessness. It is usually one of the two of you. This is a sensitive moment because the one found to be barren or impotent can feel grossly humiliated and devalued by their partner. This is the time to love and encourage each other even more. You need to stand together as a team in your search for offspring. It will not be an easy road, and it will definitely cost quite a bit of money.
Invitro fertilisation
Once a definite cause is established, and it is deemed to be treatable, the next step is to proceed to save money for the treatment that is needed. In the case of Zimbabwe, this may entail having to travel all the way to South Africa for invitro fertilisation and related approaches to induced pregnancies. The best thing for the couple to do under these circumstances is to work closely with some of your relatives in the extended family. They can assist with money, information and advice at crucial times. Try and avoid doing it all alone because it is a very demanding and costly process. Some couples may decide to visit reputable churches and be prayed for in order to be blessed with children. We know several couples that have been blessed of the Lord in this manner after having been prayed for at some churches. God can work out miracles for the childless couple.
Gods miracles
These days God is revealing Himself in many different ways. All of a sudden, there is an amazing use of herbal medicines that are shown to faithful Christians by God Himself. The herbs are resulting in the healing of some childless couples and in the treatment of many diseases. It would be wise for a childless couple to seek the assistance of some of these gifted Christians to help them to be blessed with children. Nothing is impossible with our God.
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