I am a man aged 27. I was in love with a girl since 2007only to be told it was over on April 2 this year. This has created a sad gap in my life. I no longer conduct my life well. I was so faithful to her and I never asked for sex from her or anybody, never did I double-cross her – but this is what I got for being a good man.
I had even introduced her to my parents and had made it upon ourselves to marry her before August, this year. She says I never wronged her after I have apologized more than necessary for having upset her – which I don’t remember. But it is a losing battle. What can you advice me please? – Lonely Heart
Dear Lonely Heart
I’m sorry you have been dumped by the woman you loved dearly. My advice to you is to look on the bright side and move on. If you have not done anything wrong to deserve this it is obvious your girlfriend was not as committed to your relationship as you were. The issue of marriage before August may have scared her away.
Judging from what you have said, you seem to be an honest and genuine man. Any single woman will dream to meet you. Maybe your ex was just not ready for marriage.
But you need to appreciate the fact that she has revealed her true colours before you married her. You could have been forced to live with the mistake of marrying her for the rest of your life, but now you have a choice to start over and look for someone who will appreciate you.
She may, however, been under some sort of pressure we both do not know – you can only find out by talking to her. If she is someone who is willing to talk, try to find out what is going on in her life. It may explain why she has changed her mind all of a sudden. But don’t push it, if she is shutting you off there is nothing you can do but move on or give her time. – Gracey
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