No secrets

Dear Aunty Lisa

I am a woman aged 30 and I am going out with a man who is slightly younger than me. He is not aware of my age, we never talked about it and I think he just assumed I am younger than him. I found him attractive and he respects and cares a lot about me. I don’t know how he will take it if he finds out that I am not younger than him. Should I tell him or its better kept a secret? – Sweet16

Dear Sweet16

I don’t believe in keeping secrets from the people we love especially when it is something we know they deserve to be aware of. I don’t see anything wrong with you dating each other when he is “slightly younger than you.” It is true what they say, age is nothing but a number. We make a big fuss about it because we want to look “normal” and suit the society’s expectations. Why not live your life the way you want it and let society learn to appreciate it?

Yes your man needs to know your age. Tell him about it but when you do don’t make it sound like a big deal, otherwise you will lead him into reacting the way you don’t want him to. What is most important is your feelings for each and the things you have in common. Your relationship will not be a problem if you both love and appreciate each other. But the bottom line is, no secrets. – Aunty Lisa

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