I recently gave birth to a sweet baby girl. It’s just been two months with her and my maternity leave ended last week because I took the days off a month before I went into labour. So I only had two months with her and I feel it was never enough. I have developed a special bond with her and I am failing to let go. I have to work and help my husband out. Sometimes it just makes me feel so bad and I’m beginning to think that I have failed as a mother. Should I quit my job and spend more time with my baby? – New Mum
Dear New Mum
Congratulations on your new bundle of joy and welcome to the world of motherhood. The road will not be a smooth one and decisions will no longer be easy to make, unlike when you only had yourself to consider. Whatever you do now, you need to consider your child before making any big decision.
You need to be strong and know that by letting go you do not disown your daughter. You need to love her by leaving her and part with her knowing that you are doing so for her sake. It is because of your love for her that you are going to work because you want the best for your baby and you cannot afford it seated at home.
The bond you have had with her makes it difficult for you to spend the day away but you will soon get used to it. You just need to see your going away as a positive thing for your little one rather than a negative. While you are at it, avoid listening to the negative talk by people in society who are still with the backward mind that a woman’s role is to bear and raise children while men go to work. The support from your husband is the most important in all this. – Aunty Lisa
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