My 20-year-old sister is going out with a sugar Daddy who must be married. She sneaks out of the house telling my mum she is going studying with friends. But I see her being picked in a black VW Amarok by this old man every weekend. I don’t want her to get into trouble. I am 15 and being younger than her, she will obviously not listen to anything I say if I try talk to her about it. Our mother is so strict and she is the Queen of freaking out; I know she will overreact and beat my sister badly if I tell her. But should I keep quiet and watch my sis making this mistake? Please advise. – Concerned Bro
Dear Concerned Bro
I am sorry about your sister, she really should be dating men closer to her age. I trust your judgement that this Sugar daddy is not right for her. Telling your mother what is going on would be the right thing to do – but if your mother is a “Queen of freaking out” as you say this could be a problem. Try to find someone close to the family, a relative, your aunt, grandmother, your mother’s sister who can either talk directly to your sister or your mother. You may be surprised that your mother does not always freak out if she is told things in a less freaking way.
Your sister is very lucky that you are so concerned about her. Although you think she may not listen to you it is important that you try to talk to her. You could make a deal with her that she stops seeing this old man or you tell your mother about her lying and sneaking out. Make sure you stay in control of dictating the terms of such a deal, I don’t want you to end up being offered something to keep quiet about it.
You are there to watch each other’s backs as brother and sister and you have to help her when she takes a wrong turn in life. – Aunty Lisa
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