I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and sometimes I don’t understand him. He does not call me, visit me or show that he cares about me when I am not feeling well. His sisters are the ones who call to check up on me and everything. They care about me and always ask me not to leave him, they always try to explain that he loves me when I complain about his behaviour. I don’t really know if there is something bothering him. Most of the time he is just feeling low and not his usual self, although he insists that everything is okay. What do I do? – Anna
Dear Anna
You need to try and reach out to your man. You need to know what is eating him up and communication is vital. It is great that his sisters are supportive and caring, but you are not dating them. You need to know and understand if you are on the same page with your boyfriend. If it’s something bad, I don’t understand why he cannot be open and share it with you so that you could be sad, frustrated or uptight together. That is what people who love each other do. They go through everything together.
Talk to your boyfriend and honestly tell him how worried you are that he is no longer the happy man you knew him to be. Before you go any further in your relationship you need to find out whether he really loves you. If he does not, you need to stop wasting your time on him and find somebody else. Explain gently to him that you are concerned that his behaviour demonstrates that he does not really care deeply for you. There is nothing wrong with you asking and wanting to understand. It is called communication – and it is the key to every relationship. – Aunty Lisa
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