I am mad at my husband for failing to buy me a gift from his recent trip to South Africa. He does not normally travel like I do and I have always brought him something from each of my trips. But he has just been to Johannesburg and he brought me nothing, absolutely nothing. When I confronted him he said I never asked him to bring anything. Seriously? When I brought him all those gifts was it something he asked me to? We have not been talking much for the past week and he seems to be forgetting what I am mad about. I feel pain inside my heart and I am beginning to wonder if there is anything wrong with me. Is there really? – Sheila
Dear Sheila
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. Like most women, you are just yearning to be spoiled and want some evidence that your husband thought of you while he was away. But most men fail to understand this about us. He could have avoided all this tension between you by buying a R10 chocolate and bringing it home for you. It is not a gift that you want.
The gift is just the sign that he loves you and even though he has been away he doesn’t forget you. To avoid future disappointments you just have to tell your man about your expectations, explain to him how you feel – don’t wait for him to surprise you. From the look of things he is not the apologetic type, he will just watch you go red until something just makes you laugh it off.
If you are the type of woman who doesn’t let things go easily then it will strain your relationship. It is better to burst with anger and tell him all that you are mad about, and then forgive him and move forward, rather than lock it up in your heart where it will fester and grow out of proportion. Focus on the good things he does, and be grateful for those. – Aunty Lisa
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