I am having problems with my teenage son who is becoming so rude to me these days. He is 14 years old and each time I try to check on him with his schoolwork he accuses me of not trusting him to do things on his own. He suddenly thinks he is old enough to be taking care of his stuff and accuses me of being nosey when I am just being a concerned parent. Do you think he may be up to something really bad, or there are people who are influencing him? Is he being normal? I am deeply concerned. – Mama G
Dear Mama G
It is not in all teenagers that they change into being rude and disrespectful. However acting like this is a pretty normal part of teenage development. He is just being a teenager and learning to express himself as he grows into adulthood. So, do expect that he will disagree with you a lot in the future as he tries to stand up as an individual and have his own opinion.
Developing into an independent young man is part of growing up of teenagers. They can be moody because of how their brains develop and the various changes to their bodies in relation to their hormones. You need to understand him and continue to show him love and support – while at the same time backing off a bit. A show of affection to such a teenager may be repelled because he may think it is a sign that you feel he cannot do without your protection. But deep down in their hearts they will be yearning for you to hug them, to squeeze them tight all the way to adulthood but the secret is that they will not admit to it and will not welcome it in public.
Be understanding and be ready to talk to him whenever he feels like talking. He needs to know you are ready to be there for him. Your son is acting normally and what he is going through is just a phase that will pass. – Aunty Lisa
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