I am a man aged 42 and I have been married to my wife for 10 years. In the past year she has become so nagging. She has been such an understanding woman all these years but she is beginning to give me the impression that she may be seeing someone else.
She is now starting to highlight my weaknesses and picking on me and complaining about things I do most of the time. It is becoming so irritating. Fighting with her is something I don’t want to do. I have recently resorted to drinking beer. It is something I don’t want because I want to spend time with my family. Now I don’t know how to deal with her when I am not sober. Please help me change her. – J.J
Dear J.J
There may be other things that have made your wife change – you may be assuming wrong that she is seeing someone. It is important that you sit down with her and communicate properly about this – when you are sober – before you damage your relationship any further with assumptions that may not be true. If she has been nagging for some time now, you will need to listen and understand why she is nagging. She may have a point – and you need to let her explain that. If she does have a point you may need to acknowledge it and let her know that you will make efforts to change.
Nagging is also common when a marriage gets boring and romance becomes a forgotten thing of the past. Your spouse will start seeing the negatives she did not see when she was being showered with love all the time. You need to make the effort to keep your relationship healthy and keep reminding her of how you feel in various ways. Buy her little gifts, even when it is not her birthday or any special occasion. Hold her and keep her warm and close when you are around so that there is not a gap between the two of you that allows problems to creep in.
Above all – please do not turn to alcohol. It always makes everything worse. – Aunty Lisa
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