I am a man aged 29 and I am working in South Africa. I have been here for two years and I have not visited home or called my parents yet. I am so ashamed that I am unable to provide for my parents. I have not found a decent job yet and I am worried if going home is worth it without anything big to take with me.
I have friends who have been telling me my parents are worried about my silence. They are expecting me this December and I am planning on sending friends to explain to them why I can’t come. Please give me your thoughts, is it right to just go without anything tangible for them? – Ray
Dear Ray
Life is more important than any other material things on earth. Your parents miss spending time with their son. They will obviously understand that things have not gone down so well with you and I am sure they will not demand any gifts from you. Remaining silent and not keeping in touch with them will actually break their hearts.
All they want to hear is that their son is alive and well in a foreign land. It is important that you communicate with them – in person if possible, as you are the one they want to see. Take them with you every step of your way as developments unfold in your life so that they know what is going on. Just keep the communication lines open and visit them this December if you can, parents will not be there forever and we need to make use of the time we have with them. Spend quality time with them and have moments to remember with them. Material things are just not important compared with relationships. – Aunty Lisa
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