I am a young man aged 23 and I am in love with two beautiful women whom I think are both marriage material. I am thinking of getting married next March and I still wonder which of them would make a perfect wife. Do you have any criteria that you may advise me to pick my future wife? – Edison
Dear Edison
Oh my brother, I cannot figure out a way of responding you without appearing rude. But I want you to picture this; imagine your two girlfriends are going through the same thing you are and they are wondering whether you are the perfect man to be their husband.
Would they compete for you knowing that you are deciding to pick between two women – or they would leave you for not being the serious marriage type? You are still very young – remember marriage is a life-long commitment. So you don’t want to set a target for marriage like saying by March or by this age I should be married. If you do so, you will end up settling down with any woman available just because your time is up.
When the right time for marriage comes you will just feel it and there will be all the right signs that the woman you are dating is the one to spend the rest of your life with. I do not believe there is anything like marriage material in people as if they are goods on a market. Everyone with their good and bad sides has one person who is perfect for them.
We all say no-one in life is perfect, but there comes a time when we find one person to be perfect to us. Though technically they are not perfect, of course, when the person is right for you, you will appreciate the good side so much that it outweighs the bad. You need to commit yourself to one woman. You have to ask yourself, do you want to spend the rest of your life together with that person. – Aunty Lisa
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