I am a woman aged 29 and I am turning 30 in December. One of my 2015 resolutions is to get married but my boyfriend for six months thinks this is not the year for us to settle down. We are not growing any younger and I am the kind of person who wants to have kids while still young and work for them. Already I am behind when it comes to having them young. I am not sure now if I should continue seeing this guy. It seems he does not see things the way I see them and would it not be logical to start looking for someone who is ready to commit? – Sandra
Dear Sandra
I am sorry your man is not sharing the same dream with you. It is not always the case that people see things the same way in a relationship. It is all about showing each other different points of view and being woman enough or man enough to accept the other’s as the better one. But sometimes you will get to disagree, which is normal and healthy. Making resolutions such as getting married is tricky considering that the action involves the decision of two people.
As much as you may want it so badly, the other person may not feel the same and at the end of the day you cannot be married to yourself. The logical thing to do is to find the man who shares the same dream with you, but while you do there may not be love, not all pieces of the puzzle would fit. What you need to do is ask yourself if you really love this man. If you do and he is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with then sit him down and make him understand why it is important for you to settle down this year. Also try to understand why he would think otherwise. He needs to understand your idea of getting married in 2015 beyond just being a New Year’s resolution and you may be surprised that he would buy the idea and back it strongly like his own. – Aunty Lisa
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