I am a college student and my boyfriend recently dumped me when I told him I might be pregnant.
I have always been faithful to him and he got me into having a sexual relationship with him after telling me that he would go for other girls if I continued to “ignore doing what others are doing.”
I have skipped my periods for two months and I suspect I’m pregnant. I don’t even know how to tell this to my parents who have been so strict with me all my life. Everyone at college knows us to be an item and how will I explain to my friends and everyone what separated us? Everyone will think that I cheated on him, seeing me visibly pregnant and without him close to me. What do I do, I am so devastated? – Christine
Dear Christine
I am sorry for what you are going through. You need to stop thinking about what people will say or how they might judge you. You do not live for anyone else. Your boyfriend dumping you does not mean you are worthless. He is such a coward for not being able to face the results of his actions and be responsible. He is not worth your affection.
You need to calm down, make sure you are really pregnant before you sit down with your mother to explain the situation. Yes she will be disappointed of course – but I am confident she will stand by you. You need to do this as soon as possible. If you are pregnant, the life of the unborn child becomes an important factor in all your decisions.
If you are pregnant you need to know that it is not the end of the world. You have not committed murder. Your life will go on. You need to pull yourself together and think about your future, with or without your boyfriend. If he does not want to be part of your life anymore it does not mean that it is the end of the world for you. Live your life with your decisions and never let people decide how to live it for you. Continue with your studies and show the world you are your own person.
I hope other young girls reading this letter will learn from your experience and make a decision NOT to let their boyfriends talk them into a sexual relationship – just because “everyone else is doing it”. An unwanted pregnancy with all its suffering and difficulty is the risk they are taking. And the truth is that NOT everybody else is doing it! – Auntie Lisa
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