Matters of the Heart

He told me that they are no longer in love and are always fighting. Im not responsible for their break up since they already had issues when I met him. I am concerned that Im not getting the quality time with him. When I call him late he does not answer his phone or he switches it off. Im now becoming suspicious that the divorce thing is a lie. Do you think this man is a cheat?

Lolo

Lolo dear

From the look of things, this man is certainly a cheat. It is not advisable to date a married man even if he is filing for divorce. It is wise not to trust or believe a married man who says he is having problems with his wife.

It is common to have problems in marriage and couples try hard to fix them and most of the times they mend them successfully. Usually when this happens it leaves people like you disappointed. Usually such men use the extra-marital affairs they have to get the love they will be missing at home if they are having problems with their wives. Men like that are usually too proud to work things out with their wives.

It is best to leave him and look for a single man who loves you, makes time for you, one who is honest and most of all one you will not share with someone else.

Gracey

Dear Gracey

I am worried because there is one girl at our church who is so damn crazy about me that she is going around telling everyone that we are going out when we are not. She has been spreading this lie at church among her friends and other people. Although she is beautiful and nice, I do not have any interest in her. My problem now is that her false claims are now blocking me to get a potential girlfriend at church. How can I get her off my way without being rude?

Cute Boy

Hello Cute brother

I understand how tricky it is for you when someone you totally have no feelings for blows your chances with the one you love. I suggest you sit down with this girl and talk to her without being rude or hurting her feelings. Tell her how you honestly think of her as a beautiful and nice woman and be frank with her that you can only be friends. Tell her that you dont like the way she is exaggerating your relationship to the public and how everyone believes that you are now lovers and not just good friends.

She may have taken your nice behaviour towards her for that of more than just friends. That is not your fault but she needs to understand you as nothing more than a good friend.

But her great admiration for you should not be something to be completely dismissed because it appears she is deeply attracted to you. I think she is also worth giving a chance in your search for Mrs Right.

There are several married couples who will admit that they did not experience love at first sight. At times someone whom one does not regard as an ideal partner at first might later turn out to be just the perfect person. It is worth it to give her a chance and finding out what she has to offer. There could be more to this woman than what meets the eye.

Gracey