Matters of the heart

But the problem is she never says anything in response to my proposal. I truly love her. Do you think there is hope?

Worried Fella

My sister

Im a 22-year-old man. I have a problem with my girlfriend who is pushing for an intimate relationship. She wants to get pregnant soon but Im not ready for it. I told her that we must not rush. I love her so much and I dont want to lose her. What must I do?

Anonymous

Dear brothers

Communication in relationships does not just mean talking about how you love each other. It also means opening up to each other to discuss everything of concern including sensitive issues or likes and dislikes so that everyone is clear. This can be done in a friendly way without offending each other.

As it is your girlfriends may not even be aware of how you feel about them. My advice to the brother who is not sure whether the girl she proposed to feels the same way is to talk to her and find out. Six months is long enough for one to tell if a girl feels the same way you feel or not. Some girls are not good at admitting or confessing verbally the way they feel about a guy.

The same goes for the brother whose girlfriend is pushing for sex and wants to fall pregnant. Please talk to her about how you feel about this. Having a baby is a big commitment. At 22 you should be focusing more on your future, building your career so that you take care of your own family when the right time comes. The last thing you need at your age is a girl pressurising you to have a baby because that is a huge responsibility. Both of you must be emotionally and financially ready to be bring up another human being and to be responsible parents.

Gracey

Hie Gracey

I have been in love with my boyfriend for a year now. My boyfriend loves kissing and caressing, but I dont like it because Im a leader at my church. What should I do, I love him so much?

Rue

Dear Rue

Please communicate with your boyfriend and explain to him your religion, beliefs and moral values. He needs to respect that if he truly loves you. Not everyone thinks kissing, touching or caressing cannot be done before marriage. Talking to him will get him to understand you better and it will strengthen your relationship.

You need to be strong in order to stand by your principles because your boyfriend may not necessarily agree with them. The question is will you be strong enough to resist his demands? You may need to compromise if you are not willing to let him go.

Gracey