Matters of the Heart

Dear P M

It makes her under-age for what? Of course you have a reason to worry if you guys are sleeping together. Being 15 makes her a minor and that may see you facing charges of statutory rape.

If you love and care so much for her, I advise you to give her time to grow up. You both need to be focusing on things that will build and shape your future at the moment. You can shift your attention to much more serious issues that will be the foundation of your future and get involved with her seriously later on.

You were involved with her innocently in the past but now that you know its for the better that you give it time. – Gracey

Too young for polygamy

Dear Gracey

I have impregnated two women who are at the verge of eloping right now. Im 27 and I cannot deal with both women at the same time, Im too young to be a polygamist. Life is just appearing unfair just to me alone right now. What can I do really? –

Double Trouble

Dear D Trouble

You have been totally irresponsible and the only thing for you to do here is to be man enough and take responsibility for your actions. Life can seem unfair at times but it depends from which angle one is looking at things. In your case I can say it is only you my brother who has been unfair to life.

You need to sit down with each of the women and let them know of the other before moving in with you. Otherwise the noble thing there is for you to do is to welcome them both and take it from there. I understand having two wives in your life may have not been one of your dreams but at this point you can only pray that one of them gets pissed off with the situation and refuses to move in with you.

The other option is that you can sit down with the woman you dont wish to spend the rest of your life with and confess this mess you have put yourself into. You then politely explain to her why you think you cant marry her and assure her that you will be responsible for all the babys needs.

As much as it will hurt them both they deserve to know the truth before moving in with you. Remember to stick to one partner in future. – Gracey

I keep failing

Dear Gracey

Thank you for this column, sometimes I get so troubled and Im so confused I just need a stranger to talk to. Right now Im feeling a bit low and I wish you can help me. Im 17 and I finished my Ordinary level studies last year, I failed Mathematics with E grade, I set to rewrite the exam and failed again with a D grade. Some kids are passing with one sitting and I continue to fail, is there something wrong with me really? I have asked myself this question several times but I cant find the answer, I really want to pass but where am I going wrong? – T-One

Dear T-One

I dont want to believe there is anything wrong with you just because you have failed your mathematics exam twice. It is quite a challenging subject that needs you to prepare yourself well before the exam; you were probably just not prepared enough.

Maths needs more practice than most of the other subjects. Work with past examination papers, study the questions as most of them feature in the final exams. Kindly ask your teacher for extra help if you feel you are being slow to understand how to work it out.

Just dont give up. Look into the brighter side if it, you first failed with a U grade and recently failed with an E symbol, which is better than last time. There has been some improvement and you have a reason to believe that next time you are going to pass. Remain positive and know that you can accomplish anything you commit yourself to. – Gracey

Feedback

Hie Gracey – I dont have a problem myself but I just want to applaud your Matters of the Heart column. I especially appreciated the advice you gave to the 19-year-old mother who was worried that his husband may be cheating because he answers his cell phone outside their house and go to bath with it in todays (last week) edition. That was really great. But please check your mobile number, it says 0913 yet the numbers have for long changed to 0773. Some people may think that the articles are from the archive. Wish you well in your good work. Munya, Kwekwe.