My boyfriend and I have been in love for almost three months now. I have just turned 21 and because of my big body I have always been approached by older men. He is 28 and he has been asking me to sleep with him for a month now. I’m still a virgin and I don’t think I’m ready for the kind of relationship he wants from me. I’m a University student and sometimes I feel like I’m being so backward when some of my friends talk of intimate relationships with their boyfriends and being a virgin seems like a thing for the nerds. My boyfriend has been supporting me financially with lunch monies and I’m afraid if I keep saying No to him he will dump me, what do I do? – Ashamed Virgin
Dearest Proud Virgin
Girlfriend I’m so proud of you. One thing you should do before even finishing reading this is tell yourself you are a proud virgin. You have no reason to be ashamed. You do not need anything to distract you from your studies at this stage – and if you ask me I will tell you that you are one focused young woman.
You must be true to yourself. You feel you are not ready for that kind of relationship with him and that is what you need to trust. Talk to your boyfriend, explain to him that you need to concentrate on your studies and that you are not ready to take your relationship to that level. If he really loves you, he will be willing to wait until the right time for you. Don’t worry yourself if he decides to leave you for saying no, it will tell you that he loves you for other reasons –probably to steal your pride and walk away leaving you heartbroken and miserable.
What your friends believe in should not make you feel bad. You have your own principles and you should stick to them. Don’t live your life to please other people but do what your heart tells you. Remember to stay proud. – Aunty Lisa
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