I am a young woman aged 28, I am the last born in my family. My parents are old and strongly believe in consulting spirit mediums and traditional healers for almost everything in their lives. Recently they were suggesting they go with me to consult a n’anga about the cause of delay because I am not married yet.
I do not see anything wrong with being single at my age, or at any age for that matter and I have been focusing more on my education.
They claim that I will be overeducated and will not find a man who would want to marry me. I get so upset when they start with their issue and I just don’t know how to deal with their silly stories. How do you think I can overcome this?
I totally don’t believe in it. – Thembi
Dear Thembi
The generation gap is indeed a difficult thing to deal with! I think you need to accept your parents as they are and know that you may not be able to convince them to change. Accepting them for who they are and what they believe in does not mean that you also believe in it. You just accept and understand that they were born and lived most of their lives in a totally different world from yours. And you need to try and explain to them gently that you live in a different world now.
Of course it will be difficult to get them to understand that. But you don’t solve issues by getting angry or ignoring them. Approach them and talk to them on a serious note. Get them to understand that all these consultations will not work with you because you don’t believe in them.
Try to explain to them that you are not worried about the marriage issue. This will also help them become less worried. Remember they love you and just want you to be happy and well provided before. Try to communicate to them that you have dreams to accomplish before you get married. – Aunty Lisa
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