Men need to be respected at home

He needs to be respected as the head of the family and the ultimate authority in his household. When this need is not met, the man may look for it elsewhere including at work. It is a foolish wife who despises her husband and treats him with contempt and disdain.

A despised husband will not perform his roles to the best of his ability. He feels that whatever he does will not be appreciated by the dearest person in his life. Imagine an executive officer who works in an office at work; if his wife despises him at home and treats him as nothing, while the secretaries at work call him Chef and treat him with a lot of respect, he will tend to want to spend more time at work than at home.

He may even begin to have an extra-marital affair with his secretary who respects him rather than remain faithful to his wife who despises him. It is therefore true that some men have been driven into the arms of their work female colleagues by their disrespectful wives. In the end, it is these disrespectful wives who get rejected if not divorced altogether.

Now how do you show a man that you respect him? First, it is important to recognize him as head of the family. This entails allowing him to make all the serious decisions pertaining to the welfare of the family. There are some very strong women that very quickly take over the affairs of the family and start running not only the family but the man as well. This is very dangerous to your marriage, madam.

Some do so because they think that their husbands may make wrong decisions or make silly mistakes about the welfare of the family. Others do so because they will be earning more money than the despised husband. A woman who earns more money than her husband is in real danger of being disrespectful of her spouse. It takes a lot of humility on the part of the woman to allow the hubby to make all the critical decisions when she is the main breadwinner.

The second aspect relates to the couple making a deliberate decision to plan and budget together whenever they get some money. They are therefore able to make the critical decisions together in mutual agreement. That way the wife will not feel that she is just treated as a child in the family but as an equal partner with the husband.

Some women have argued that they are the neck that directs the head. This is not true, of course. The neck does not direct the head at all. Instead, the head sits on the neck and directs the whole body. The Bible teaches us that Eve was taken from Adams rib and not from his neck. If the woman is the rib then she is by the side of her husband and should make decisions together with him. In the end, it is the responsibility of the husband to make the final decisions and be respected in that regard.

A man who is starved of the respect of his wife often fails to adequately love her. How can you love someone who belittles you? How can you express your love for a spouse who thinks less of you than of some other men elsewhere? What is even more tragic is that over time even the children will also learn from their mother not to respect their father.