I have a five-year-old daughter from my previous marriage. I feel so angry with the idea that she is in love with her father’s home rather than mine. I am a single parent and my financial status has not been stable. It is something I cannot help. But my ex-husband is using his money to take her away from me. I can’t make my daughter hate her father but at the same time I am afraid of losing her. I have no money to ‘compete’ for her love with my husband, what can I do? – MumPee
Dear MumPee
I understand how jealous you are of your ex-husband. It hurts to know that your own child is choosing her father (your ex) over you. But stop taking this as a competition and be the best mother you can be to your daughter. In the end she will come around.
You don’t need money to show love to your children. I personally grew up in a family where we didn’t get everything we wished for. My parents could not afford those toy kitchen utensils other girls my age used when we played house. They could not afford my brother the fancy shoes other boys showed off with at boarding school. They wished they could, but they did all they can to provide us with the best education and now we know and appreciate how much they love us.
There is nothing your ex-husband can do to change the fact that you are your girl’s biological mother. Just make sure you stand by your daughter each time she needs you, spend time with her whenever you can and make every time with her the best for both of you.
Do not take how her father is treating her as bad thing. There are a number of single mothers out there who wish their ex-husbands or ex-boyfriends would be responsible for their children. You need to be thankful that her father is there for her. Just stop stressing and try to talk to your ex-husband about how you can fairly spend time with your daughter. – Aunty Lisa
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