I am 24 and graduated from a local university last year. I have been working for the past six months but not in a decent job that I am qualified for. It has been a temporary thing while I wait for my dream job. I have always made it my goal that I will get married and settle down after getting my dream job and spoiling my parents. I have been dating this kind, loving man for six months – a true Mr Right for me. He says he wants to marry me in December. I am confused – caught between reality and my goals. What should I do? Should our goals change with time? – Pamela
Dear Pamela
Goals should not change – but can change. We do need to revisit our goals and adjust them to the reality of the present time. It is a matter of choice and seeing what works at the time. In your case, the issue is about following your heart. You have met an amazing man and you are in love. If you ask any woman she will tell you that a Mr Right is hard to come by, not because they don’t exist but we can spend half of our lives waiting or looking for them. You don’t want to let him go once you have met him.
I am sure getting married and settling down – if that is what you want – will not stop you from spoiling your parents once you get your dream job. Your goals will still stand, but the order in which they are fulfilled may change. Do what makes you happy. If you want to be with this man, it will also help you if you share your goals with him so that he can encourage and support you in achieving them. – Aunty Lisa
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