I am a 15-year-old girl whose mother recently remarried a rich man. All along I have been close to my mother when she was single. We used to struggle to make ends meet because my mother’s sewing business was not paying much. Now it’s different because she can afford to buy me anything that I need at school and in life. My life is smooth now financially but one thing I am not happy about is my relationship with my mother. We no longer see each other so often, and she does not want her husband to know that I exist. I stay with my grandma and she lives in her beautiful home in the same city. She does not allow me to visit or call her because she says I will expose her. I miss spending time with her and I would give up everything to be close to her again. What do I do? – Lonely Teen
Dear Lonely Teen
I am sorry that you are lonely and missing your mum who appears so far yet so close. The arrangement your mother made is a bit harsh on you. It appears selfish and bad but the unfortunate thing is that she may be doing it for both of you and she may be missing you badly too.
She should have told her husband the truth about you and let him love her as who she is. Not telling the truth and hiding such important details of one’s life from the person one plans to spend the rest of his/her life with is just being unfaithful. You are not in a position to change what your mother chooses or decides in her married life- but you have the right to be her daughter.
For you to be considered non-existent is unfair and the least your mother can do is make sure she accommodates you in her life. She can do this by visiting and spending time with you more often and at least allow you to contact her. Since you both have been close I have no doubt that you will be able to sit down and talk to her about your concerns the next time you meet. I don’t think it will make her angry to hear from her daughter that she is being missed and you prefer to be close to her again. Ask her for a better arrangement that will make you both happy. – Aunty Lisa
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