Dear Aunty Lisa
How can I lose weight without exercising? I love my food so much and I hate exercising, it hurts and the change does not come easily. I am currently weighing 91kg and I want to lose weight so badly. Please help me. – Beauty
Dear Beauty
If you really want to lose weight so badly you would do anything my dear. Nothing good comes easy without hard work. The best way I know to lose weight is through diet and exercise. For you to lose weight and see change in your life you need to change your mindset first and want it so badly that you will commit yourself to anything that makes your desires a reality.
Do not listen to the marketing hype that promises weight loss by taking slimming tablets and applying some lotions. These may work in the short term but they are not a lasting solution and can do more harm than good. So, be careful. I would advise you to find some exercise that you like. There is so much you can do – simple walking is excellent. Or try dancing, or tennis or swimming. Basically you just need to do anything that burns calories and develops your muscles because muscle tissue burns more calories than any other type. Find a buddy to exercise with you. And try to have fun. Good luck! – Aunty Lisa
Stand your ground
Dear Aunty Lisa
I have been married to my husband for six months so far and we live with his sisters. All they do is criticise me and be strict on me when I get home from work. They tell me what to cook and are always bossy. I would understand if we lived with them in their family home with their brother unemployed, but they are the ones benefitting from accommodation in our house and they are eating from the earnings of myself and my husband. I have confronted my husband about it and he said he will not involve himself in women’s issues. He told me to deal with it and he will support me. Can you advise on how I can handle this please? – Rumbi
Dear Rumbi
Your sisters-in-law are being unfair and disrespectful, there is no doubt about that if what you are saying is the whole truth. Since you have the green light from your husband and his promise of support, you need to stand your ground and explain to them politely but firmly that you are not comfortable with the way they are treating you and that you expect them to change.
It is your home and that makes you in charge. They need to appreciate that they have been given a roof over their heads and respect you. Age has nothing to do with it. Just make sure that whatever you do or say you do it graciously and gently.
Sit them down and tell them what is in your heart. You can include these lines, “I respect you as my husband’s sisters but I think we both need to know our limits when talking to each other and interacting in general.”
They will respect that you are speaking from your heart. Hopefully the fact that your husband acknowledges that what they are doing is wrong will help you knock some sense into their brains. – Aunty Lisa
Flirting friend
Dear Aunty Lisa
I have a female friend at work who flirts with me. I am married and I would never want to cheat on my wife. Breaking my marriage will be the last thing I want to do. But this friend seems to want more than just friendship, although she has never admitted to me that she loves me? How do I tell her I am married and how do I even tell her that I only like her as a friend. – J.J
Dear J.J
I think being unable to be frank with people is a big problem people face in our part of the world. We watch some things in our lives turn into big problems just because we cannot say stop. We watch something we suspect to be bad turn into rotten and stinking garbage when all the time it is within our power to simply shove it away.
No one should hate you for speaking your mind. Why are you afraid to do that? I don’t see any reason for her to hate you for telling her that you do not like her flirting with you. She needs to know how you feel and exactly how you take your friendship and your wish for it to remain that way. You do not want to risk your marriage because of a friend. A number of people make that mistake. When we marry we need to think twice about the kind of friends we socialise with for they may break our marriages and walk away afterwards. – Aunty Lisa
School Satanists
Dear Aunty Lisa
With so much talk about Satanism going on after a recent story about what happened at Hatcliff Primary School I am afraid of sending my child to school. It breaks my heart to think that women give birth to these kids and some people just come from nowhere to abuse them. I am now really confused and I don’t trust schools anymore. It seems to me they are targeted places for Satanists. Please advise me on what to do. – Confused Mum
Dear Confused Mum
Whether Satanism exists or not is not the issue here, neither is the issue which school can be trusted. You need to trust God. There is evil in this world – that is true. It is everywhere – not only in schools. I am a Christian and I have my trust in God so much that I will enrol my kids in any school and pray that the Almighty be their guide in everything they do. You need to pray for your child and ask for God to guide her to and from work. There are a lot of bad things that may happen to our kids anywhere. Things like accidents, illness or kidnapping. You just need to put your trust in God and ask him to take care of them when you can’t. – Aunty Lisa
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