I am 35 and having thoughts of settling down. My girlfriend of six months is an albino. I have accepted her and love her for who she is inside. I don’t mind the colour of her skin. My friends tease me saying it is an act of desperation since everyone had been putting pressure on me to get married for years.
It is not my friends I am worried about though, because nothing they say will make my love for her fade away. I was thinking of introducing her to my family and I just don’t know how they are going to take it and how I should do it. Should I tell them of her albinism first before she comes? I am truly in love but I will be greatly disappointed if my family do not accept her, I just don’t know how I will take it. Please help me with approach to this one. – Lovebird
Dear Lovebird
An albino is a normal human being, I am sure you will agree with me more than anyone else since your wife to be is one. In a case where your parents have previously hinted that they will not be okay with you marrying an albino woman – not that they will have a choice when you want to anyway – you may need to tell them in advance that you are dating her.
I say so because they need time to accept the reality of things. They need to accept that their son is grown up to choose who he wants to marry. Telling them before the visit in the case that they had condemned it before saves them of the shock of what awaits them. You may not like the things people may end up saying in shock especially in her presence.
But if your family has never said anything negative about albinos, you take your lady to them the same way you were going to if she was not an albino. Telling them what she is already, gives her a definition of not being normal. They may start seeing her as an albino and not as a normal woman. They need to appreciate the fact that she is the woman who makes you happy and after all these years, she is the one you have found fitting the name Mrs Finally in Love.
For as long as you love each other I am sure nothing can stop you from building the happiest marriage. – Aunty Lisa
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