I am a busy man and my wife is also very busy. She usually works over the weekend when I get some free time, so we hardly get some free time alone without the kids troubling us. We have three kids by the way, two of them are twins aged four and the second and hopefully our last is two. She got some good free time over the Christmas holiday but she was all moody telling me that she is exhausted all the time I tried to stay up late with her. Our maid was off and we would both share household chores but she always claimed she is tired after she put the kids to sleep and I am thinking it’s our time. I am worried that our marriage may suffer and break because of this. I don’t want to cheat on her, what do I do please? – Ba.Two
Dear Ba.Two
You sound like a good family man and I am proud of you for wanting your marriage to work. There is basically nothing wrong, you are both just not finding some quality time together and your wife is genuinely exhausted when she tells you so. Dealing with three kids of your children’s age is a big job, her hands are full without the maid helping around and bedtime for her is nothing more but bedtime.
You need to schedule your calendar and find some time at least one weekend in two months that you can send your kids over to their grandparents and be alone just the two of you. If possible a new environment is perfect, a hotel room where all the housekeeping is done for you and all you have to do is save the energy for some fun together. Deep in her heart your wife misses that as much as you do, but she would not enjoy any quality time if she knew the kids are not well taken care of. Make some time together and you will see that smiles will start coming back into your marriage. – Aunty Lisa
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