I have a friend who is showing all the signs of being gay. He has been like that since we were growing up. Now we are in our teens and I am beginning to worry for him. You know the issues with our country in terms of gays and lesbians. I don’t want to get into trouble for sticking with him. I don’t want him to end up thinking that since I am his friend I can be his girlfriend too.
It is so embarrassing when he walks and laughs like a girl at school when we are with girls. It gives the idea that I approve of what he does and I am in that same game too.
I don’t want to be painted with the same black brush, please help me on how I can get rid of him as a friend? – Tim
Dear Tim
You do not dump a childhood friend just because they are gay or lesbian. Yes our president is so vocal on speaking against gays and lesbians, but there is no law that says they need to be prosecuted or that banishes their friends from associating with them. From what you are saying, your friend seems to have it in his hormones. It is not something he is faking and so we need to accept who he is.
I understand your concern in having him think wrongly about you. You just need to have an open talk with him, get to know how he really feels and what his position is. Despite these signs you mention, the truth is that you could be completely wrong anyway. I know of some boys who associate with women more, and laugh like them, but later got married to women.
You need to establish if your friend is gay for real. You can then set the ground rules for your friendship and make it clear to him that you are not like him – but that you are and will remain his friend. You may be all he has known as a true friend and dumping him for being gay will crush his world. Don’t abandon him now. Continue to be who you are and obviously people will not confuse you as being gay as well. – Aunty Lisa
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Dumping a friend because he is gay is no different than dumping a friend because he is a different colour.